What’s In A Name?
Tree hugger, tofu eater, adult film star (and much worse that can’t be spoken!), deviant, sinner, pornographer, porn star, environmentalist, extremist.
What am I, anyways? And what else could I be called? I’m sure there are plenty of names that I haven’t heard that have been spoken behind my back. Otherwise, I’d include them here. It’s funny how someone can call me an adult film actress and say it with the utmost respect… then, when the fact that I’m in the industry makes that same person uncomfortable for one reason or another, or that person is mad at me for other reasons, they can call me the same thing, “Porn Star” in a manner of disgust and contempt.
The same person will lovingly call me a tree hugger when it suits them, and say it with contempt when it suits them as well. A guy can call me dirty names (whore) while we are in bed, and it’s a turn on, but that same guy can call me the same dirty name when I’m walking down the street, and I feel sorry for him for being so ignorant.
I’ve been called a lot of things, but who am I really? Yes, I’m all of those things I’ve been called at one time in my life or another. We all are. When some may consider me a whore for being an adult film star, I may consider that same person a whore for working for the last 18 years in a job that makes him completely unhappy. Others consider me a deviant, because they assume that I have sex for money. That’s actually not true, but, again, this is their ignorance. The sex I would have for free. I love it. What I actually get paid for is sharing my face with the world. I get paid for the social stigma that’s been placed on me for doing something I love to do. I get paid for being called a whore, not for actually BEING a whore.
My family gives me a lot of grief over being a vegetarian. I haven’t eaten red meat since I was 13 years old. I quit eating other animal products when I turned 18, and at this point, I don’t think it’s a “phase”. My mother actually told me that I eat the way I do just to “spite” her. Wow, did that come as a shock to me. My not eating meat is not because I have strong political beliefs about the mass killing of animals for profit. It’s not because I personally think it’s disgusting and it’s not because the thought of putting pork on my plate would be no different to me than putting my family dog on my plate, and it couldn’t possibly be because I feel we are ruining our environment with all the chemicals and steroids we pump into our animals before they are lead to the slaughter. Nope, it’s all just to spite my mother. And, so, my own family calls me tree hugger, environmentalist, and other priceless names when they are trying to put me down. I don’t take it too personally; I feel they are just hiding behind it. If they were to really look at the issues it would mean they would have to change, and who wants to do that?
I sleep well at night. I don’t do anything to hurt anyone — ever. Do as you will, but harm none is my motto. Yes, I am sexually open, but, never at the expense of other’s feelings. I have never been “the other woman”. I would never have sex with someone (even if I want to really, really bad), at the expense of someone else’s pain. If it’s going to cause someone pain, I won’t do it. I place as little wear and tear on our planet as I possibly can. Though I feel guilty about flying at times, and using fuel that is killing our planet, I also make a lot of my own household cleaners, I flush very few chemicals down my drain, I buy organic and I don’t buy genetically modified organisms — even if it is quite a bit more expensive. I consider these acts part of my donation to the planet. In addition, I try to educate others about how important our environment is and I contribute in good ways to society whenever I can. I also try to educate people on sexuality, and help rid them of the needless guilt our society has put on them.
I’m the black sheep in every way shape and form. I dance to my own tune, I walk to the beat of my own drummer and that makes me different. And though some in society look upon my way of living as honorable, some look down upon it. In both cases it’s me. It’s who I am. And I wear every label proudly.


